There is no tactful way of putting this, so allow me to be blunt. Facebook is poison to relationships.
It starts when you meet someone. You add one another to Facebook. You feel a little bit insecure, perhaps you are unsure about his feelings and intentions. So instead of asking him, or allowing him to show you, you embark on a fact finding mission in his Facebook archives. Read the rest of this entry »
There are 78 cards in the tarot deck and this course will last 78 days. Each day we will be looking at a new card, exploring its meanings, artwork, relationship to the previous and next card in the suit, reversed meaning and our own personal interpretation of the card. Read the rest of this entry »
As V-Day approaches and the shops become awash with heart shaped chocolates, teddy bears and cards, many of us find ourselves filled with dread.
There was a time when Valentines Day was pretty insignificant and celebrated by very few people. The greeting card industry decided to cash in and make it the big deal that it appears to be today. When I was a child, growing up on the South West coast of England, Valentine cards were sent anonymously. So if you received one you had to try and figure out the identity of your secret admirer. Likewise, if you sent one to someone you liked, you did not sign it and you made sure it was delivered anonymously. Read the rest of this entry »
Soul Connections are about two people who come together to trigger each others deepest issues. Ideally, what needs to happen next is that each person then recognises their OWN issues and works on them for their OWN good.
1) Once you have established that you want to get know one another, arrange to chat on webcam. As SOON as possible. This is the next best thing to meeting in person, but with none of the risk. If someone has been misleading about their appearance you will see it right away. If they are only willing to talk to you on webcam when they are at work, when everyone in the house is asleep, or when they are at a friends place, it could indicate that they are in a relationship and just seeking some online interaction. The sooner you find out the better and the less time and energy you will waste. Read the rest of this entry »
Knowledge is power. It helps us to make informed decisions, and avoid costly mistakes. When it comes to relationships, this is especially important. We want to know that the person we are getting involved with is honest, genuine and not hiding anything.
Fortunately, there are some basic free searches that you can do online which can be remarkably revealing. This is not stalking, this is taking responsibility for your own safety and emotional wellbeing. EVERYONE can be found online. Here are five basic searches that you can use to check someone out.
1) Google their name. This often reveals their Facebook profile. It will also show list of people by that name, along with age, location and family members who live with them. This info is not always bang up to date, so if your honey says he is divorced and records show him still sharing a home with his wife it does not mean he is lying, it just means apply caution. Read the rest of this entry »
It may sound like a cliche but the greatest love you will ever have is the love you have for yourself.
You are probably well aware of this, you have no doubt heard it many times before but what does it really mean?
The universe often teaches us the greatest lessons in an indirect way. It starts with you having total free will. You are the author of your own destiny. Nothing is written in stone, there is no ‘meant to be’ no such thing as ‘the one’ and no pre-destined path mapped out for us to follow. Read the rest of this entry »
It can often feel as if you are surrounded by couples. In the media, on TV, in the books and magazines that we read, as well as most of the people you know having a ‘significant other’. This can leave you feeling lonely and particularly at social functions and during the holidays.
So you embark on a quest for love. There is nothing wrong with this in principle, but its important to understand the difference between being open to love and stalking it like a hunter in search of prey. Not everyone you meet or interact with has to be assessed for long term potential. Read the rest of this entry »
1) A Soul Connection is NOT the same as a relationship. Soul Connections are about growth and change. This means that interacting with a Soul Connection is always a very highly charged encounter. Issues, both yours and theirs, will be triggered. This has the potential to bring a lot of past hurts and dysfunction to the surface, to remind you that there are things that have yet to be resolved within YOU, and you now have the opportunity to do the work. Just remember that you can’t help the Soul Connection and they can’t help you. You merely serve to remind one another what you each need to work on for yourselves. Read the rest of this entry »
When we think of commitment phobia we often imagine someone who runs away from relationships, marriage, love and any long term entanglement that can’t be dropped at a moments notice. But this is only HALF the story. The thing that many people fail to realise is that commitment phobics struggle with committing to ANYTHING and that includes STAYING AWAY.
Many of us have experienced the hot / cold, and off/ on aspects of an unstable interaction but we fail to see that what we are actually dealing with is commitment phobia. The fact that someone constantly come back confuses us into thinking that this is about fears, coming to terms with the enormity of emotions, not being ready to settle down yet or having issues that needs to be resolved before they can take the next step, and in some instances this is the case, but sometimes they just cannot commit. Read the rest of this entry »