The Danger of Denial

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Losing a relationship is something that we need to mourn in much the same way as we mourn the loss of a loved one. When someone dies, there are 7 stages of grief.

1. SHOCK & DENIAL

2. PAIN & GUILT

3. ANGER & BARGAINING

4. DEPRESSION, REFLECTION, LONELINESS

5. THE UPWARD TURN

6. RECONSTRUCTION & WORKING THROUGH

7. ACCEPTANCE & HOPE

The stages are no different when someone we love walks away from us – with one BIG exception. When someone actually dies, they are gone. There is no way that they can come back to us in this lifetime. We have no choice but to walk the rest of this path without them. Because of this, although the denial stage is very real, it is sure to pass. However, when it comes to the loss of a relationship, the person is not gone, they are still living, breathing and very much alive and this is where we can sometimes get stuck in the denial stage. Instead of Denial, Pain, Anger, Bargaining, Shock and Loneliness being stages in the process, they can actually become obstacles.

The kindest thing you can do for yourself is accept what is. If someone wanted to be with you they would. No ifs, no buts, no ‘its complicated’ – these statements are evidence that you are in the denial stage.

There is a more sinister side to this and that is when you take your denial into a psychic reading. Major platforms offering pay per minute services are a mixed bag of top psychics and major scam artists. You are upset, hurt and vulnerable. You are also in denial. This makes you a target for the scammers.

When your denial is in full swing you will flatly refuse to hear the voice of reason. If a psychic tells you anything that you are not ready to hear you will reject it, perhaps leave them a low rating and a nasty comment and move on to someone who will tell you what you want to hear. You may not realise it but you are inviting scammers into your energy and your bank balance, not because they are helping you, but because you did not want to accept what is staring you in the face.

As ethical psychics, my colleagues and I are always appalled when we hear of vulnerable clients being exploited. We sometimes see ratings left for scammers that indicate a scam has taken place. These can include things like aura cleanings, spell and curse removal, spells to reunite you with someone or huge fees paid so that someone can pray for you. Its disgusting but it can only happen if there are willing participants.

When we are hurt and desperate it can sometimes feel that we are cursed, doomed or under a dark cloud. It would be wonderful if someone could just chant some hocus pocus, light a candle and transform our lives. But it doesn’t work. Please understand this. IT DOES NOT WORK. No matter how much money you throw at it or how many people you consult. There are some things that money will NEVER buy and one of them is PERSONAL GROWTH. You don’t get to skip school and buy a ‘Get out of lesson free’ card. Also remember that if you don’t face issues they will come around again and again in the shape of different people and situations.

If you find yourself in the denial stage, take a step back and remind yourself that this is a stage, and as long as you are open and accepting of what is, this will pass. Diving into psychic readings in the hope that they will reinforce your desire to deny this is all happening, will do two things. It will hold you in an unhappy place for much longer than you need to be there and it will empty your bank balance – FAST.

REMEMBER THIS: If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck….its a duck.

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